Being married is different than dating. Living together, making life plans and financial decisions, are all things that couples of all stages do together. But once you are married, you are transitioning from a state of change to a state of constancy.
I have had ten roommates over the course of my life. Now, I will have one for the rest of my life.
When my wife and I were dating, we were constantly adjusting to our own changing lives. Where we were, what we were doing, who we were with, were all changing every day, and independently from each other. Now that we are married, those things are still changing ever day, but we have each other as a constant. We never had that before.
I was expecting everything to change in my life when I got married. And a lot of things did. But really, it’s the stability that no one warns you about.
All of a sudden, you have someone to be with, always. You have a partner in crime that isn’t going anywhere. While this constancy might scare some people, I have found it to be an awesome experience.
In a world of terrorist, super viruses, civil wars and street violence, I am so glad I have a steadfast partner. Regimes will fall, presidents will leave office, and gas will go up, but I have a friend, confidant, lover, and drinking buddy to stand with through it all.
Yes it’s forever, and yes, that can be a little scary. But life is scary enough alone. I’m glad I have such an amazing partner to go through all the change life sends our way.